Building a Life, Without Your Loved One

One minute changed your life forever.

The pain feels like you lost an integral part of your body.

Life after this loss, seems impossible to fathom.

You would do anything to go back in time and bring them back.

Alas it isn’t something that you can change, neither something that you can control.

What you can control however, is the impact this loss has on your life. The path you chose to take and the life you wish to make for yourself following this loss.

The first step is to acknowledge and accept that your life has changed. Even the ones that appear strong and calm from outside often have a storm brewing within them. You might push your feelings on the backseat today, because you want to and need to focus on your responsibilities. The people and the things that need to be taken care of. That need you!

Putting your duties first is the natural human instinct, but forgetting yourself in the wake of the new responsibilities can cause unknown and unrealized damage that often leaves a lasting impact on your life. Fear and anxiety, constant worrying, spiraling negative thoughts and stress are the most common outcomes of this major life change. Behavioral changes in the form of high levels of irritability and anger are another set of byproducts when it to comes to grief. If you start observing any of these changes in yourself, then you my dear friend, are not taking care of yourself. You are not doing enough to deal with your grief.

Take time to grieve. First accept and acknowledge your grief. Understand how this grief is affecting you and then take steps and actions, however big or small, to help you cope with it. Confide in a friend, journal your thoughts, pursue a creative hobby, do some physical exercise and if need be, seek professional help.

A lot of people shy away from seeking professional help because they perceive it as a sign of something being ‘wrong’ with them. The purpose of seeking professional help, like with any other field is ‘not a corrective action, but it is more of a developmental action’. As your Grief coach, my aim is to help you understand your grief, find your new life goals and help you achieve it. As your coach, I will not ask you to ‘change’ or ‘correct’ anything about yourself. All I do, is facilitate the growth journey you determine for yourself through the coaching process.